Heartbreak is brutal. But it’s also a master teacher.
It strips away illusions. It shatters the roles we played.
And if we let it — it brings us back to ourselves.

Here’s what it taught me:

1. Loving someone doesn’t mean losing yourself.

The right love doesn’t ask you to shrink.
It doesn’t silence your truth or make you smaller.
It holds you in your wholeness — not in your performance.

2. You can miss them and still choose yourself.

Missing someone doesn’t mean you should go back.
Grief is natural. So is longing.
But healing happens when you honor your no, even when it hurts.

3. Closure is an inside job.

Waiting for them to explain?
To apologize? To finally understand?
It’ll only reopen the wound.
Closure comes when you decide the story ends.

4. Overgiving isn’t love — it’s self-abandonment.

Love given from an empty cup isn’t love.
It’s fear.
It’s the hope that “maybe if I give enough, they’ll stay.”
But real love starts within — and it never requires self-erasure.

5. Your sensitivity is your superpower.

What broke you open is also what lets you feel deeply.
Yes, heartbreak cracked me wide open —
But in that openness, I found softness.
Boundaries. Self-intimacy.
I found me.

🌹 If you’re healing a heart that still aches…

Know this: your pain has purpose.
Your tenderness is not a weakness.
And there is a life — softer, freer, truer — on the other side.

✨ Start your healing journey with our favorite tools & rituals:
👉 slow-secrets-tribe.kit.com/starthere

Let this be the season you come home to yourself.
Not harder. Not colder.
Just wiser — and more whole than ever before.