Daily reminder, from the version of you who always knows the truth:
You’re not obsessed with him.
You’re obsessed with trying to be chosen by someone who reminds your body of an old wound.
A parent. A pattern. A memory.
I say this with love—not judgment. I’ve been there too.
Trying to win affection that feels just out of reach.
Chasing the apology I never got.
Hoping this time, someone will stay. See me. Pick me.
But here’s the thing I had to learn (and still remind myself often):
That’s not love.
That’s a loop.
And you’re allowed to step out of it.
🌿 Take a breath.
🌿 Place a hand on your heart.
🌿 Remind your nervous system: “We are safe. We don’t have to prove anything to be loved.”
You are already worthy.
Not when he texts back.
Not when you’re less “needy.”
Not when you finally fix the part of you that he doesn’t know how to hold.
Now is the moment to choose yourself.
Not with revenge. Not with a “glow-up.”
But with quiet, holy presence.
Because the real obsession isn’t with the person.
It’s with trying to make the past end differently.
But that’s not your job.
Your job is to heal.
To feel.
To rewire the story.
To love yourself more fiercely than the ache ever could.
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You’re not broken.
You’re just remembering.
And you don’t have to do it alone.
