Hello, dear hearts! It’s Julie Spark here, bringing you a nugget of wisdom wrapped in the warmth of self-care. In our lives, we often cross paths with moments that challenge our inner peace and test our resilience. Today, I want to share with you a valuable insight that I’ve gained, one that has illuminated my journey like the soft glow of dawn’s first light.
My therapist shared something profound, a truth that resonated with the deepest parts of me: The biggest sign of childhood trauma is trying to convince people who are hurting you to treat you better, rather than walking away. Wow. Let that sink in for a moment.
It’s a natural instinct to seek validation and love, especially from those we’re closest to. But sometimes, the people we yearn for approval from are the very ones who cause us pain. We may spend years, even lifetimes, pouring our energy into relationships that drain our spirits, mistaking endurance for strength. But here’s the spark of truth: real strength lies in recognizing our self-worth and knowing when to say, I deserve better.
Walking away is not an act of defeat; it’s a courageous step toward self-love. It’s about setting boundaries and honoring our well-being above the need for acceptance. It doesn’t mean we stop caring, but that we start caring more about ourselves. It’s in the act of walking away that we reclaim our power and begin to heal.
So how do we do this? How do we turn the page when our story has been written in the ink of old hurts? It starts with a single decision to choose ourselves. It blossoms into self-compassion, grows roots in self-respect, and flourishes with the support of loved ones who lift us up.
Remember, beautiful souls, you are not alone. We’re on this healing path together, and it’s okay to seek professional guidance, lean on friends, or find solace in communities that understand. We all have the right to a life illuminated by love, respect, and joy. Our past may shape us, but it doesn’t define our worth or our future.
As we step forward, let’s hold onto the belief that we are enough, we are worthy, and we are capable of nurturing the bright flame of self-love within us. The journey isn’t always easy, but every step taken is a testament to our inner strength and the brilliant light we carry within.
With love and compassion,
Julie Spark
