We all say we want peace —
yet most of us are still fighting invisible wars.
With our past.
With our parents.
With our exes.
With the system.
Even with ourselves.
But what if the moment you stop blaming others
is the moment you start truly living?
This conversation with Yulia Tsoy isn’t about guilt.
It’s about freedom.
It’s about remembering that self-responsibility is the deepest form of self-love.
Because every time you blame, you give your power away.
And every time you take ownership, you reclaim it.
Below are eight Slow Secrets to return to presence, truth,
and peace within yourself.
🎯 1. Stop Blaming Others for Your Life
Blame feels safe — it keeps the spotlight off our pain.
But it also keeps us stuck.
You can’t transform a life you refuse to own.
The moment you stop saying “it’s because of them,”
you begin to see how much power you actually have.
Freedom begins the moment you whisper:
“This is mine to transform.”
🪞 2. Take Radical Responsibility
No one is coming to save you —
and that’s not tragic, it’s liberating.
Radical responsibility doesn’t mean self-blame.
It means you stop waiting for change and start being it.
Ask yourself:
“What if everything that happens to me is my teacher?”
When you see life that way, even pain becomes wisdom.
📚 3. The Power of Now (Eckhart Tolle’s Reminder)
Life doesn’t exist in yesterday or tomorrow —
only here, only now.
Every time we replay an old story or resist what is,
we step out of presence and into illusion.
The mind wants to fix.
Awareness just sees.
When you return to the now, resistance dissolves —
and peace naturally follows.
💢 4. Constantly Fighting, Never at Peace
The inner war: proving, defending, performing.
Trying to win an argument no one else is in.
But ask yourself —
who am I fighting?
Often, it’s the parts of ourselves we never allowed
to be seen or felt.
Peace begins when you stop trying to win
and simply allow yourself to feel.
🧘♀️ 5. Get Awareness — The Real PhD
Forget titles and achievements.
Awareness is the real education.
Buddha didn’t get enlightened through credentials —
he sat under a tree until he met his own mind.
Awareness is simple, but not easy.
It asks you to see yourself clearly, without judgment or escape.
That’s where real healing begins.
🔄 6. Recognize Patterns and Traumas
Every reaction has a root.
Every trigger is a breadcrumb leading you back to yourself.
Instead of blaming others, trace it:
“When have I felt this before?”
This is how awareness becomes alchemy —
you stop repeating, and start releasing.
🌪️ 7. Stop Digging Yourself into the Past
Healing isn’t about staying stuck in analysis.
At some point, you stop dissecting your pain
and start living differently.
You can’t think your way out of an emotional pattern.
You have to act from new awareness —
one breath, one choice at a time.
🌱 8. Start Acting from Presence
This is the shift.
When you feel triggered — pause.
When you want to react — breathe.
Ask yourself:
“What would awareness do right now?”
That question changes everything.
Because awareness doesn’t react — it responds.
It’s not about being perfect.
It’s about being present.
🌾 Closing Reflection
When you stop blaming others,
you stop being a victim of life
and start being a participant in your own evolution.
Responsibility isn’t a burden —
it’s your gateway to freedom.
It’s the bridge between pain and power,
story and soul.
So begin here.
Stop blaming.
Start living.
And meet yourself —
right here,
in the stillness of now.
🎧 Continue the Conversation
This post is inspired by a deeper conversation with Yulia Tsoy.
