Most of us are living through patterns we didn’t consciously choose.
And no — it doesn’t mean we’re broken.
It means we’re human.
We’re wired for safety, not for expansion.
Which is why we can consciously want something — more love, abundance, ease —
and still subconsciously sabotage it.
Your subconscious programming runs the show more than you think.
But here’s the good news:
Once you become aware of your blocks, you can begin to free yourself from them.
Let’s explore 5 signs that your subconscious might be calling the shots — and what to do about it.
1. You sabotage what you say you want
→ Because your nervous system doesn’t feel safe having it.
You start something good… then suddenly pull away.
You get the opportunity… then procrastinate or self-destruct.
Sound familiar?
This isn’t laziness.
This is survival.
Your body might be more familiar with struggle than with joy —
so when success shows up, it feels like a threat.
🕊️ What to do:
Train your nervous system to feel safe in expansion.
Celebrate tiny wins. Practice feeling good — without waiting for the other shoe to drop.
2. You keep attracting emotionally unavailable people
→ You’re mirroring your own attachment wounds.
It’s not just about “them.”
It’s about what feels familiar.
Longing. Chasing. Hoping they’ll choose you.
This can feel like love if you grew up equating love with inconsistency.
💗 What to do:
Start reparenting the part of you that equates love with distance or pain.
Let your inner child know: connection can feel warm, safe, and mutual.
3. You feel guilty for resting or receiving
→ Because your self-worth is tied to overgiving.
If you learned that your value lies in being useful, helpful, or needed,
then simply resting or receiving might trigger guilt or discomfort.
🌿 What to do:
Practice receiving without doing.
Start small — a compliment, a favor, a gift.
Let it in. Breathe. Notice what comes up. Stay.
4. You shrink yourself to avoid conflict
→ People-pleasing is often a survival strategy.
You say yes when you mean no.
You make yourself small so others feel comfortable.
You’d rather betray yourself than risk upsetting someone.
🔥 What to do:
Start honoring your truth.
Let your no be as sacred as your yes.
It will feel terrifying at first — and then liberating.
5. You fear being “too much” or “not enough”
→ Core shame beliefs rooted in childhood still echo.
You edit yourself. You overthink.
You shape-shift based on who’s in the room.
Because somewhere deep inside, a voice says:
“If they really knew me, they wouldn’t love me.”
🌙 What to do:
That voice is not the truth — it’s a bruise.
A leftover echo from a time when you had to earn love.
Start meeting that voice with love instead of judgment.
Sit with it. Listen. Choose a softer belief.
You Are Not Your Patterns
But you can’t heal what you won’t look at.
Awareness is the first step.
Compassion is the second.
Rewiring comes next.
🌀 And you don’t have to do it alone.
Ready to go deeper?
If you’re craving tools, practices, and reminders to gently rewire from survival into safety, from patterns into presence — you’re invited to begin here:
👉 slow-secrets-tribe.kit.com/starthere
This is your space to remember:
You are already worthy. Already whole. Already enough.
You just need to feel safe being all of you.
We start where you are.
We walk slowly.
Together.
